To Label or not to Label? Needless to say, when it comes to your children’s belongings, that’s practically a redundant question. Of course you need to use those Lovable Labels and label every thing that leaves your doorstep! Everything you ask? Including the kids themselves? That’s exactly the question that I’m posing.
If you were to label your child, what would his/her label hold as implications? I was reading an interview with Josh Shipp, The Teen Whisperer. In it he makes this claim:
“Here’s what every kid needs to learn: if you don’t identify yourself—decide who you are—other people will do it for you.”
I think we all crave a sense of identity. So when it comes to your kids, my position is that we need to really know how to label them ourselves. If we don’t someone will label them for us. The question is how?
I believe it’s a repetition and consistency thing. As often as possible, tell your child, “We believe in you; we see the best in you.”
Do what you can as a parent to give him a foundation and a positive sense of self–esteem, and help him learn how to decide on his own who he is.
So when it comes to your kids, my position is that we need to really know how to label them ourselves. If we don’t someone will label them for us – at our expense.
Kids should be kids implies that kids should have fun and be “at peace”
It does not imply that they should not be building their future because that is all we are doing one way or another.
Perhaps if we combine both when it seems more age appropriate , kids will continue to grow up to have fun while building their future. It just becomes easier, more natural, more peaceful, more organic.